I have heard a few broken-hearted folks going out, hiking, camping in nature and solo travelling. It’s the wisest thing to do. I agree that meeting new people helps you moved on. It will remind you that the person hurting you is not the only person in the world; you have plenty of options, just allow them to get to know you.
Getting into a relationship right away isn’t a good move at all; make sure first that the person you’re getting to know with isn’t the same type of person who have had in the past. A little bit of change in your mindset will help attract nice people; because you attract what you are, so be the change you want others to be.
I do have a lot of triggers, people ignoring me and making me feel less important; but soon as it happened, I would divert my attention into doing things on my own. Life goes on, with or without them; just keep going and succeed on your own. Chances are you’ll find someone much better than them along the way. You’ll just be surprise at how foolish you were feeling affected by those people who are no better than your present.
Enjoy your trips everyone and focus on things that makes you happy. Pain must be felt but you have to put yourself in a mode of acceptance so that you will not resist the pain, you’ll just let it redirect you to the right choices. So follow where the pain leads you and do not run away from it; it felt good actually.
You’ll feel excited knowing that this pain will make me stronger, wiser and braver next time; so don’t be scared to breakdown; it may sound shameful but if you stop it, you’ll feel regretful. Just go through the shame and have fun enduring it. If you can tie your laces, you can also smile through it and have fun reminiscing how foolish you were.
Who cares about your drama; we want to hear you learning from your own bad choices, and it’s mostly, “Saying NO” to things you really don’t want. You’re just too stubborn to change your mind. Change is the only way for you to grow. It’s also the only way for you to escape from a feeling you no longer want.
Just change your mindset; instead of self criticizing, try appreciating yourself. Try saying you deserve someone better. Choose the best next time, maybe it will work. Just this year, I have decided to join the biggest company in the world (as far as I knew), for me it’s already the biggest. I’m so proud of how amazing the company treats everyone. I’m just one of the luckiest. I also feel the happiest this time, I feel excited everyday and it doesn’t feel like I’m forced to do things, it’s pretty much what I really wanted to do.
I noticed that everytime I’m broken-hearted, I set my sail to a direction higher than my present situation; whatever it takes, win or lose, at least I’ve tried. You know what? I’m always successful in the end, until another heartache triggers my GIANT Self to leap higher. It takes another painful situation for me to level up! It’s my only escape and it’s the best escape ever!
If someone’s trying to bring you down, that only means you are stronger now than ever, so go! Pursue your dreams, you have the signal, go for it! Achieve more! Keep forgiving, it’s the wisest choice to do, it saves you from karma. Choose your battle, if you’re too good to win from the losers, do not let yourself be influenced by them. Buying to their dirty little games not only destruct you from your goal, it’s a waste of time. Come on, believe it, you don’t have to fight in order to win, only losers fight to win. Winners are already winners.
Climbing, Rocks! 