“You have been chosen; you are being accepted and entrusted; embrace it and take care of it; claim your luck! Take responsibility!”
Sometimes, you must stop acting that you’re not good enough; it’s like saying the people who saw your potential, “You’re a liar.” Sometimes, you have to validate others ability to see your worth and exceed their expectations.
Believe that you’re amazing and be responsible to take on the role that has been entrusted to you. Show the right people that they’re right about their choice. Putting them to shame is not a good choice; you’ll be put to shame even more; so do your best and exceed their expectation, just like how they have exceeded your expectations.
If you want to grow, then show your best self, surround yourself with an environment who will value your worth. Who will celebrate your success and will acknowledge your contributions no matter how little it is; they are those people who will cheer up on you gracefully.
Be thankful instead of taking revenge; to be grateful is the only way to move forward without being stopped by ill intentions, ill hopes and revenge. It’s true that it’s hard to find gold, you must dig deeper; but if you want to find something real, you must endure.
Being thankful will also help in making yourself happy; because it is when you’re thankful that you will find good reasons; you will remember good things in life instead of the bad. Same situation with two sides of the coin. For example:
“It was raining the other day, water levels rising up in canals causing water overflows in roads. I was thankful and grateful that my bus crossed it. Another thing happened, the Ceres overtakes my bus and then stopped; we’re stopping that time due to traffic, and since we’re going right, the Ceres’s mirror was hit by our bus soon as we started moving forward, it caused so much more traffic. The Ceres fell short and got its mirror broke. Luckily, the bus door can still be opened; I’m so thankful that I wasn’t stuck inside while they’re trying to resolve the situation.”
“Lesson learned: Relax and wait for your turn. Learn to step back. Forgive and check if you won’t hit anything before moving on. Allow others to go first and do not overtake. You will have your turn.
Another example:
“Since it was raining, my calculation was that I wouldn’t be able to easily get a motorcycle to drive me to IT Park; if I would, I would be soaked in the rain. I changed my direction and tried the other way. It all went well, I’m so thankful and grateful that people I’ve met on the road or in the bus is all good that day.
I remembered that lady signaled me to sit at the vacant space since I didn’t see it, I was fine standing since I’m used to it. I humbly accepted the offer and felt thankful. That’s not the only time that people were so kind to me when I’m in a bus; some men would stand up to give me their chair, such a bliss!”
Here’s the most important one:
“Since I was new to that direction and it was foggy inside (because I’m a little bad with direction, but most of the time it’s the fear of going the wrong direction and it would waste my time), I asked an elderly which road is going to mabolo, he answered with enthusiasm, “To the right.” I think he was laughing at the situation. We’re all thankful that the driver agreed to drop us all off on the street where there’s no water. Our actual stopping point got flooded.
So I went ahead and observed what vehicle would bring me faster to my next destination. The rain stopped pouring by the time I arrived in SM street, so I chose to get a motorcycle and offered him a nice pay. She was talking to a lady first and they’re negotiating but I did not hesitate to also ask the driver if he can bring me to IT Park since their deal was not finalized.
I took the driver’s attention but I said, “oh, you already have a passenger.” I did not force him. Luckily, the driver chose me. He said that it’s flooding where the beautiful lady is going. Where I’m going is safe, near and I pay higher than expected, “Oops! I’m a lucky girl!” Thank you for chosing me! I arrived safe at the site, earlier than expected, like it never rained. Good choice!”
Lesson for you: if there’s a chance, the percent doesn’t matter, just do it! That one piece of chance will bring you to your next destination.
Piece of advice: if you have been through bad situations lately, try to find something good in it and be thankful instead of getting stuck in that negative vibe. You don’t want to be like my co passenger who got hit by a motorcycle in his way out; he attracted the same situation because he kept on repeating it instead of letting it pass.
“We were on the same bus who broke the Ceres mirror; we transfered to another bus but he and his wife couldn’t stop talking about the incident. He’s blaming our first bus driver for moving forward. “Well, the driver could have estimated first and considered the mirror before moving forward. Just like he could have checked for upcoming vehicle before he jump off at the bus, his arms got hit.” But the first mistake there was the Ceres who tried to overtake us and stopped without moving backwards earlier. He could have saved his mirror if he was mindful, but since it’s traffic, even if he will notice the possible damage later, if he would move backwards the car following him would be bumped as well. Timing is really important. Back to the lesson, relax and do not overtake.
Who would have thought the side mirror would be crashed, well I do. I was gonna shout at the driver to make him stop but my mouth did not cooperate, my brain told me “It’s too late, it’s gonna be broken!” So I knew it will happen, so I didn’t panicked. Well, I could have told my driver of my observation but I remained quiet.
Lesson for me: Speak up! “I could have listened to my instinct and took action.” It’s because I still have self-trust issues but I’m working on it. So another lesson for me is to TRUST my instinct more and speak up! It will prevent bullshit from happening.
Speak up! SPEAK UP! Be heard.
Right now I’m just really thankful and grateful that I am learning. I’m thankful to myself for writing this because I wouldn’t have found my other trauma; not being heard, so I stopped speaking up. But once again, speaking up to the right people will prevent disasters from happening, it could save them. So forgive others for not listening, share and speak up to others who listens.
Climbing, Rocks! 