Once in a year, there’s always going to be someone who will remind me of the wrong choices I made in the past; choices like, I should have said, “No” instead of saying “Yes.”
Girls have this amazing instinct about the outcome of a specific friendship or relationship. Before we even started talking, I already knew what you’re up to. Well, it’s up to me to entertain you or do the right thing.
Sometimes, in the past; I wanted to play along already knowing the ending. It’s always my fault because I did not listen to the red flags and still played with the fire. Now that I’m adulting and I found value in saying, “NO” and the value of “Honesty,” “Forgiveness,” “Acceptance,” rather than revenge; it made my life lighter and peaceful.
I still have a lot to let go, a lot of mountains to climb to process lots of toxic thoughts and releasing toxic feelings. I hope to trek next week and I know I’m going to do it on my own. I hope to find a joiner, I hope to find company. There was one but I had a change of heart, I noticed the red flag.
Girls, you must know your value and once you saw a red flag, it’s a NO GO. Be firm and be consistent. It’s better to let go now than doubt your power instinct. “What if?” Is not an option. Remember that you’re not a child anymore; you can do things on your own.
Besides, stop acting naive; you know someone is into you, why act like a friend? Just say “NO”, it’s not true that a girl and a boy can be friends only if they go out together, alone. You’d either be raped or you will be respected and loved. So there’s a risk; chose someone who has a good heart. It’s better to spot a good heart acting like a villain; than a real villain, acting like having a good face, showing off and all that.
Sometimes you just have to accept defeat, do not force into something you know it’s going to destroy you in the end; if only you haven’t allowed your ego to dictate your decisions, maybe you have already gone so far. If only you have set your sail towards your good goals, and not taking revenge.
Now that we know the outcome of revenge, isn’t it right to fight for what is right, no matter how hard it is? According to Kim, to forgive is easy but to forget is hard. Maybe I should change my mentality into that.
Praying for strength and power to say “NO,” Praying for courage and ability to face fear, to do things on your own, to share, and to grow out from the new experiences; stronger and renewed! It’s time to reinvent yourself. Go for that marathon! Climb that mountain! Learn that lesson! Buy that book!
Climbing, Rocks! 