It’s hard to focus at the right people specially if they’re being used by the enemies to get through you. It’s better to really stand on your own, be there for yourself; be happy from a distant and be thankful and grateful that you have met them; specially if they’re the only one you can trust and be vulnerable with.
It’s a real challenge to handle negative experiences and thoughts triggered or caused by the people who wants you to feel inferior, inorder for them to feel great and better about themselves; people who will make you feel at fault and bad whenever you’re staying away from them, expecting you to beg for their forgiveness and then when you do what they want, they’ll have full control over your emotions and start messing your life again.
So be careful with the great manipulators, they’re good at playing with their words; either good or bad, always look at the big picture. Good words without proof will make you fall; and once you do, they’ll start milking you. Bad words that will make you feel bad, and when you react to it negatively, you became the bad person; it will affect your emotions, you’ll be out of focus and you will eventually fail; used by dirty players, using trash talks.
I knew of two people who are both red flags; and it’s so funny how I can see their differences. A total of 4 different personalities that I can differentiate. First, someone who’s feeling close, wanting to get your attention and the attention of others with trash talks (not good for work). Second, someone who’s using positive talks to get your attention and milk you whenever they can or right after they destroy others and acted like they are on your side.
Third personality, someone who observes and understand your emotions and is there to check on you; even if you’re not saying anything. They made you feel validated, understood and heard. They’re the once who can divert your attention to the things that makes you happy. They’re both good in work and in personal friendships.
The Fourth personality, are the one’s who are secretly observing your bad traits but not vocal about saying it; instead they joke around and help you in a different way. They’re supportive in a way that makes you appreciate them as a leader; they’re both good at work and as a good friend.
There’s plenty of personalities I have encountered so far and it felt awesome to observe they’re differences and how they affected me, both personally and professionally. I think I’m good at this area; maybe I’ll consider pursuing something related to picking people? Not to bully but to support them in a way.
Well, I am the Fifth personality, who act like stupid and observing how these personalities react; it’s easy to get to know them when you’re vulnerable. It’s kind of risky specially with the 1st and 2nd personality I have mentioned. Both of them will use your weakness against you, at work and in relationships.
So the best way to deal with the first two personalities is to let them go; they’re the wrong people for you. The right people are the once’s like the third personality and I’m always vocal about this. Whenever I’m asked, I’d always tell the truth. It’s seldom to find someone like them. I’m impressed!
When it comes to identifying personalities and seeing the differences, I think I’m good at that. So right now, I’m actually thinking about what’s next for me. I think it’s time to think again? I guess I have developed a very great skill that will open up new doors for me. I think I’m still blessed despite the challenges I have been through because of them.
The solution is just let them go, choose the right person, move on! Stand on your own knowing that even if you’re alone, there’s always someone like the 3rd personality who knew you from the start, whose ear is always open to listen to your concerns and will always give you approval as long as it makes you happy. People like him exist and they’re real! Although I have only met 1 or 2🎉 They can bring you back at the present moment like “Boom!” You’re sad before, now you’re happy again!
Climbing, Rocks! 