Life is very precious, your mental health is very crucial to your success in life; that also includes your physical and emotional state of being. Trouble comes when you’re surrounded by toxic people, people can be anybody.
If you’ll keep allowing them into your life, you’ll be emotionally and mentally drained, so once you see the red flag, work on eliminating them (not to kill, but to just move on). Cutting them off successfully is like a thorn finally got pulled out from your body.
I understand that letting them go is worrying you because “What other people thinks, still matters to you”, but if you’re really serious about living a peaceful life, you really have to learn to let go of that mentality. If you care too much about other people’s opinion of you, you’ll surely lost your identity.
You have to understand that when you allow others thoughts about you, you’re allowing them to dictate your life, which means you allowed them to manipulate you. If there’s one piece of advise I can give to help yourself from falling into that “mental trap”, go get to know yourself. You know yourself better.
Red flag #1 :
Wrong people are often wrong about you; don’t bother changing them because you simply care, let them go immediately. The right people will get to know your first, ask questions, instead of telling you who you are like they already knew your future (that’s assumption that could lead to manipulation). God is not human. Remember that he’s the only one God.
Red flag #2: Instead of listening to your side of the story, they immediately judged you for being at fault. The right person will consider where you’re coming from and will try to understand you first. I may not be right for you but there’s definitely a tribe meant for you.
Ask yourself “Why” you’re keeping them. Ask yourself “What could go wrong without them in your life?” If everything is well, and they have have contributed anything good to you, let them go. Always give unconditionally because it will make you happy; giving out of pity is wanting something in return, that’s not genuine.
If they’re like that to you, let them go; they’re the type of people that will harm you in the end. Be careful who you showed mercy to and make sure that you’re not breaking any rules by doing that. True friends will never drag you down to hell nor make you do the wrong thing; and you deserve real friends, not the one’s who act like caring even if you’re doing fine 😂.
Manipulative people creates stories in their minds that’s not real and then act like it’s true for you. Always ignore and work on letting them go, they’re totally out of their mind; they’re also a threat to your peace of mind. If you’re scared to let them go, remember that you’re not a charity.
Climbing, Rocks! 