Have you ever tried rejecting someone ahead of time as if they’re into you because they’re too cool, open-minded and asking lots of questions regarding the interest you or your partners are into, like they want to be with you? Maybe it’s not what you think. Maybe you misunderstood their curiousity?
Always ask if they really wanted to join you before rejecting them unless they ask, “Can I join you?” Sometimes, people are not really ready for anything, they’re just curious and wanted to know more. Oh and I’m always misunderstood because of this “Always willing and available” type of personality. I have always been reminded of “Boundaries” and I’ll always remember that.
So if ever you will meet me in person, please ask my opinion first before you decline. It’s a real turn off I promise. I will also say “NO” in the end, even if you change your mind, unless I really wanted to be with you and if I’m really serious about it. Because if I’m not really interested or into you, I’ll accept your first no. Most of the time I’m just having fun and it’s okay to be rejected, it’s like freedom for me, lol.
Someone once told me, “I thought you like me.” Well, I didn’t. I was offended, felt harrassed and disrespected. I only wanted to be friends not to be in a relationship or maybe I wasn’t clear about that at all or maybe I should have asked, “Do you like me other than friends?” Then what? Maybe if you say, “Yes” I would say, “Not me, I just want to be friends.” Then I will still be your friend rather than my offender.
But if you’re a psycho and really wanted to force me even if I already said “No,” then I’m in serious trouble that’s why I prefer to do things SOLO now and it’s the best feeling in the world, that experience was traumatizing, but it taught me a very good lesson: Stay single unless you’re ready. Have courage to pursue your dreams alone instead of being dependent with a man or a woman. Believe me, they’re just the same people. Toxicity can be anyone or anything.
But wait, how did it happen anyway? Was it because I was too naive to believe that they only want friendship? Or was it because I’m hoping that they can help me with my goals? Or maybe both? Regardless, I learned the hardest lesson of all time. Never expect anything from anyone nor do things out of hope. If you’re really sure about it, then do it. If you’re in doubt, then say, “No.” If you see red flags, then move on.
Wake up already, some people are just making you believe, listen to the sound of their voice and look at their actions; maybe you’re with a narcissist, who wanted to keep you chasing by making you feel bad about yourself, not good enough, then they’ll act like a hero by pitying you haha.
Wake up, stop chasing, you deserve respect, better treatment, support, and most especially, you deserve to be recognized not hidden like a 3rd party, have some dignity and respect towards yourself; you’re not that ugly, you’re pretty, independent, know your worth my sisters. “Have a cup of coffee ☕.” Now, do you still need someone around to enjoy it? You can do it yourself, right?
Climbing, Rocks! 