The best feeling in the world is when you’re able to help others unconditionally, because you will feel able and useful and that’s what will keep you going.
Today, I saw a runner on my way to work; he’s wearing a shirt with two words printed at the back, it says “Keep Going.” We get tired, and it’s okay. How you handle it is really up to you, either you change your situation or you change your mindset.
Some people cannot change their situation due to poverty, lack of skills, disabilities and lots of limitations. They’re scared of doing things outside of the norm because it will make them feel alienated. Everyone wants to avoid loneliness and bullying, they’d rather end their lives or settle for what’s available/less.
Little did they know that they can actually stand on their own, without any help or validation. Sometimes, all we need is self love, self support, self validation; it may sound so weird and too much, and felt really dangerous because you’re doing it on your own, others wouldn’t dare to put up with.
However, what if there’s another way, and the way is too difficult to follow. It’s a bit sad and lonely at times but once you find that faith within you, you’ll find peace and happiness, it may sound a little crazy and weird but it’s totally healthy and liberating too.
Never have I seen my mother doing things without her family’s support and it’s only right for her to give back to them. I used to be so angry with her because she’s too dependent on them even if I knew she can do it herself . Little did I knew that she was really scared to be alone, she doesn’t want to be alone otherwise she will kill herself.
Even I needed somebody to talk to, to laugh with, to connect, to appreciate, to give back, to feed, to serve. We all need somebody. I thought I can do it on my own without anyone’s help, but it’s not true, we all recieved help one way or another; either friends appreciating us, inviting us, listening to our concerns; every little kindness that we recieved makes a big difference.
Life is a mystery, it’s inter connected; if you will stop something, it will stop everything. Sometimes, you are gifted to give, so you’re receiving more and if you’re not sharing it, you’ll stop receiving because there is no room for the new blessings to flow. You just learn to let go of those that are no longer yours to keep in order to enjoy what you currently have in the present.
There is joy in giving without expecting anything in return. As a child, I cling unto the old and not using the new once because there might never be another new one, as I grew up, I realized that even the new once that was not used will become obsolete and will rot, so what’s the point of keeping it? Use it now, enjoy while you can, because if you won’t, you’re wasting your chance, you may never be able to do what you can do now. Just do it and let no fear stop because doing things to avoid things from happening, the things you prevent from happening, will mostly likely to happen.
If you want to be happy, give. If you want to be appreciated, give your best. If you want to be praised then be the best. There is no such thing as coincidence, luck, nor “it just happened.” Things happened because you are doing something others didn’t do. Everything that you have right now is a product of what you have chosen to do in the past, no matter how little that was.
It’s good to be kind even if you think, you have no right to or you are not good enough. Remember that not everyone have the opportunity like yours. There are things that are nothing to you but it means life to others. Your kind gestures may help others in need. Your smiles may uplift others life so don’t be greedy with your “Hi” “Hello” “Morning” “Take Care” “Have fun” all of those little gestures means a lot to anyone in need.
Happiness comes not from receiving a lot, but of being thankful of the little things you received and by giving anything that gives value to others. Sometimes, you have to let go in order to grow; sometimes, you have to say “NO” to prioritize yourself so you will feel prioritized. Taking yourself as an option will make you feel like an option.
Give yourself credit because you deserve it. Appreciate yourself because you deserve it. Spoil yourself because “Why not? You can afford! Now!” Value your time and don’t take yourself for granted just because she’s not yet the person you want to become. If you need support, be kind, support yourself. You don’t need approval to be kind to yourself, to love yourself, to support yourself, etc. It’s your #1 responsibility and yours alone, not others. If you can’t be responsible to yourself, how can you be responsible to others. You can’t give water with an empty cup.
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