Dealing with angst and defensiveness is kinda crazy, trully hard to handle, but I found an amazing way to handle this issue effortlessly; you just have to understand that each of us have our own worries, fights, insecurities, and problems.
Instead of fighting back or blaming yourself for their behaviors, even if you haven’t done anything to them, but they just act like you did, so that you will.
These kind of people are paranoid, they’re living in a bad thought about you that they created to make themselves believe so that they can act what they want to act in front of you.
Guess what, it’s not your fault, all you have to do is acknowledge their ignorance and shortcomings, their mental illness, their health issues, and say to yourself “I am fine, my friend told me I am. I’m even kind, friendly, giving, clean, happy, skillful and very talented. I will keep improving myself not because I am not good enough, but because it is way better than fighting a bad fight and getting my mouth and hands dirty without honor.”
Imagine yourself fighting against a crazy person, do you think you can win against them? Unless they shut their mouth up, you’ll end up lossing to anger, you might even get infected by their false beliefs.
So, choose your fight. Fight something that you can learn from win or lose. But if the fight doesn’t benefit you at all, nor improve your well being, then it’s better to get lost to the right fight rather than winning and yet starving to death not learning anything.
Imagine how crazy they are and how they’ve become like that and just have compassion instead, because people who always want fight are ill, they needed attention. Have mercy on them and just move forward.
Forgive them because you deserve a peaceful life.
Remember that you’re strong, and you can always forgive them no matter what.
Afterall, forgiveness and letting go is a choice just like happiness, you just have to acknowledge your ability to forgive.
Maybe you know how, maybe not. Here’s a tip for you, “Go to church, pray for help. Surely the angels will teach you how to forgive.”