Manipulators are smart. They will figure out what you want and then they’ll give you what you need. After that, they can start hurting you. These people are badass people who wants nothing but destroy you so they can feel better about themselves.
If you act like a child, they’ll act like your parent, and then once they get your trust, they’ll start crawling on your weakness then eventually betray you and backbite you; and because you respected them, it will be hard for you to be your true self.
That’s when you get lost, stuck in fear of “what others would gossip about if you do this and that.” My advise, be honest to yourself, do not sabotage yourself if you knew it’s no longer okay. Sometimes, you just have to be brave to save yourself from further damages.
I understand that you are cute, you want to a act like a baby, but make sure that the person you’re acting with is treating you the best way like you deserve; not robbing you, I mean literally robbing you. Like having you buy all the things they wanted without helping you out; the worst sign of these Manipulators is that, they’ll put you to debts.
I am kinda smart not as a manipulator but a detector. Once I detected these type of people, I will observe them first, play for while but I will never give in; in the end, they didn’t cause too much damage in me. I once had a manipulator chat-mate before, he wanted me to owe money from a bank to help him. I sent only what I have and blocked him forever. I haven’t met this guy, but he made me believe in love, like fooling me around super.
Aha, that reminded me of this other guy, whom I have met year 2018. He’s a total manipulator, I am not sure if he’s blackmailing his victims, because he’s not revealing his real name, only nicknames, and chat you whenever he wanted you. Ask you pictures, etc. etc. And send you false loving words, that later on he will take back and call you a “Liar”. Worst thing is that he’ll tell you to ‘Love your husband’s even if you’re single and unmarried.
He claimed to have worked in a military, I knew his full name and yet I couldn’t find him anywhere, maybe I am looking at the wrong place, but I am no longer interested, it’s a total waste of time, maybe he really liked me, but he doesn’t trust anyone at all, and because he kinda knew I belong to someone he isn’t. These types of men are all red flags for me. Yet, I still entertained them because it’s exciting how their brain works. But too much is enough for me, I do have limitations too until I can act like “Okay” even if I am not really, just for the sake of knowing something and getting a proof that my first instinct was right.
I have finally blocked him. I know we’ll never met again, unless maybe if my future husband is a famous celebrity x personality 😂 and he wants to blackmail them for money just to protect me and his good image, but I will never allow that to happen; besides, I have already decided to not entertain these types of people once I detected them. I have so much other things to do than play like a fool, acting like I don’t know anything at all. Besides, I know how it’s going to end up, he’ll end up blaming me for not being honest, and lying like “I didn’t know”. In the end, it’s my fault and he’s right. Don’t play fire guys like I did thrice. Not a good idea.
Be honest, it’s for your own sake. Most importantly, trust your girl instinct, it’s always right, believe me. I have been to those men of any ages and that same instinct came in the first time I met them. So far, no one’s different, I haven’t met the other type yet, but someday I will and I will know if this guy is a good match for me. For sure he’s someone who doesn’t want to keep me around 🤣 because I am messy and he doesn’t want his things to be touched. He wants to be free too, he wants to be alone and doesn’t want to see hair fall in his floor, besides he doesn’t take me out on a date. He’s strict like hell. I’d rather not meet him 😂 I’ll end up being alone and have to grow up my own.
I kinda met him through the men I dated. It’s also one of the reasons why I had hard times leaving them, because I got confused which one is the real owner of the body. What if he’s this guy! But he’s not, my first instinct is always right. I do have the power to change someone into my real match but after that it became harder for me to let go of the man. Shouldn’t do it again. Just trust your instinct girls and wait until you finally met them whoever your best man are. One thing for sure, I am not going to fight back, I’ll live my life in my own terms. I’d rather be single than a dead meat.