Now I understand clearly their ways, the technique they’re using to keep me a loser. These type of mind manipulators will open up a topic or an argument against you, when they’re losing, they’ll move on to the other argument they have for you even without ending the first one to keep it open.
I have met one, two, three, all the people I dated for goodness sake; but the first person was my mother. I literally attracted men like her! It’s because I believe in her false stories, I was young and easy to be fooled; she made me choose her. This is how she made me feel so bad about me before. But now that I figured out the best step to this kind of game, she can’t win over me anymore. Until now she still tried, maybe she thought that I have forgotten what I have discovered.
These types of people will act like a victim, making you feel sorry and feel that care towards them, and mercy of them, until we start acting like their hero. Once they get your attention and your willingness to listen, they’ll start pointing fingers on you, and say words that sounds like blaming you. They’re indirectly saying hurtful words so they can deny later on that how you get it is not that they’re saying, keeping you confused and wanting to understand them which you always can’t.
They’ll change their minds once they’re caught. If you’re going to not let go of them, and just decide to get lost for once than twice, then you’re being controlled, someone’s manipulating you. I’m sure of it; the moment you entertain their 2nd argument, you’re dead, cut it short before it gets you stuck in their trap! You just fell in their trap. From there, they’ll fed you words, thoughts that are not real, you know what’s sad? It’s when all those thoughts are negativities about you and the people you really care about. Wonder why you still can’t get out from a relationship no matter how you’re being mistreated?
Your mind is still confused, you can’t decide whether it is right or wrong to leave them because you can’t see any wrong about them, they keep on changing things on their favor so you can’t notice and you’ll always think that there’s something wrong with you and that there’s nothing wrong with them. But guys, if you’re being too toxic with you now, that itself is a valid reason to leave now. You deserve something better. You deserve someone who will teach you the right way instead of telling you’re wrong all the time without even giving their idea of what’s best. They keep it a secret so they can keep you blinded. Because if you’ll notice, then they can no longer control you.
“If you’re not learning anything good in any relationships you have, now is the time to let go; come on, we are here to learn and grow, not to be controlled by any humans who’s level is lower than yours.”