I intentionally attended a wedding that I am not invited with; in fact, they didn’t knew me. I just wanted to listen to their vows and the priest’s advises to them which they’ve agreed upon.
It says there, “For better or for worst, you will love each other”, that means even if you will find out later on that your wife or husband has this side of him that you do not like, you will still love him or her.
The parents were informed clearly that they will not take sides when conflicts occur with the couple; which means, there must be no bias. Let the couple resolve its own issues. In short, for me, they’re being ask to mind their own business not the business of the new family.
Marriage is not a joke. Risk has to be taken before it will happen; you must know and get to know each other first before signing up those papers. But if you’re super rich, then go ahead and be clumsy, be careless, it’s easy to get a divorce. But if you’re thrifty like me, don’t get married unless you know this man or woman very deeply; if you don’t do that, you’ll end up having to let go of each other because you’re not deeply tied to each other for real; the foundation must be solid.
I learned from my parents. I learned from others who have made the wrong abrupt decisions, because of fear or because of pressure from others; family pressure for example, colleagues and friends. In the absence of these people, what are you two? Are you really in love when you’re not being surrounded by them?
Based on the relationships I’ve seen that have worked, so far; those that fall in love without others around are the real couple, because noone’s forcing them to. It just happened naturally. These two decided to be with each other or leave each other, wherever they go, together or separately, they’re still husbands and wives; whether they cheated or not, they’re still husbands and wives.
When entering into marriage, it is important that you master “Forgiveness” and “Letting go” first before anything else. If you take a vow, you can still break it if you can’t really keep it, and it will be too painful for the both of you. Anyways, you can still heal and rekindling maybe possible if both of you are still single; and if, you have learned your lessons.
It’s traumatizing, watching my parents marriage got broken; when the other decided to leave for good but the pain still lingers and the children gets affected. It’s hard to watch parents being broken hearted. Children wouldn’t know what to do because they simply cannot relate, and I was once that child. Although, children’s may be able to understand later on, they’ve already been traumatized. I hope that everyone will be honest to each other before deciding to raise a child. And I hope that everything’s prepared before he or she is born.
Though not everyone is rich. But If I’ll have the power to change one law, it will be, that only those who are qualified can bear a child because they’re capable of raising it. The rest must work on themselves first both financially and spiritually until they’re ready to raise one.
I guess, this is what my friend was talking about. She talks about the Bible, the first sin of adam and eve; they did something they’re not ready for because their patience was weak. She must be gifted to see this but she said that “everyone will be able to get what they want when they’re ready.”
Patience is a virtue, now I understand. For me, “She was so young to get pregnant and her body wasn’t ready, so it was too painful for her; the husband has to toil to keep her family alive even if his body wasn’t ready for it yet.” But I wonder what could have happened if they just followed the fathers commandment. Maybe we won’t exist now 😁.
I’m honestly thankful and grateful for their sins. Thank you parents for being impatient. Although, they could have done more and better if they’re just patient enough and did their best to make themselves better, they wouldn’t have experience the pains and the sufferings they have suffered. It wasn’t my fault that they suffered, but they made me feel blamed, it was actually their own deeds that made them suffer 😌. So, love thy parents 😂 even if they are the poorest of the poor.