I wouldn’t have been able to take these beautiful photos had I not decided to walk and travel alone to begin with. I realized that being alone is just an illusion; and we both knew we’re maybe thousand miles away but we’re still under the same sky, aren’t we?
Not seeing each other everyday doesn’t mean we’re so far. Truth is we’re closer than those stars above yet they feel so near just because we can see them when we look up at night during good seasons. Seems like our eyes can be easily deceived but not our souls.
May you also find courage to pursue your heart’s desires alone, knowing that feeling alone is just an illusion, you have me. May the truth sets you free and may you allow yourself to do the things you truly want. May you listen to your instincts and trust your gut feeling, because I believe that your kind soul speaks truth through it.
Here are the good things you can experience when travelling solo:
- It saves time.
- It’s peaceful.
- It teaches you to ask the right questions to strangers.
- It exercises your courage to learn new things.
- You’re focusing on reaching your destination without delay.
- You’d get to do things on your own and it exercises your power to decide.
- You have nobody to blame, and you’ll learn to take responsibility of your actions.
- You’ll learn to find ways, experiment and understand that failure is just part of the process.
- You have no one to depend and you will not seek for approval or permission; it’s all up to you!
- Most importantly, it will train your mind to think happy thoughts, thus positively thinking; otherwise, you’ll attract the bad stuffs. So always pray for good when you’re travelling solo or with a group.
If you want to feel freedom, travel solo. You’ll realize it’s more peaceful when you’re fully with yourself. You’ll love yourself more because you will finally listen to her needs. Solo travelling leaves no choice but to cooperate with yourself.
June 11th 2025, I went back to Bohol, Philippines solo and later on met my teammates to trek and camp at Alicia Panoramic View; I experienced emotions such us discomfort and anxiety which was good. At the bus stop in Carmen, I felt bullied by the motorcycle drivers because I was wearing tight thin pants. They’re trying to negotiate with me with lies saying there’s no motorcycle that can bring us to our destination. I said “NO” we already have contacts. My colleagues who travelled ahead of me were also offered a higher tricycle ride. Thankfully, none of us fell into their scheme. I’m so proud of us! We gave justice to out current roles.
I heard them gossiping and talking behind my back as if I’m some stranger, a nobody who doesn’t belong, like I am not one with them; which was valid. It made me feel uneasy and that’s okay. It triggered something in me but I reacted with silence so I was fine. I asked the bus driver if the bus I’m in is heading towards Alicia just to confirm what other people I asked are telling me, and he answered indirectly and it made me feel insulted, but of course I said “Thank you.” Atleast he’s not lying.
This is exactly why I was scared to do things on my own because I’ll become vulnerable and I had no one to protect me, even my parents will not validate my feelings. So, to conquer that fear, I must travel alon; I have to experience those emotions and process it accordingly. It seems like I knew all along what kind of people I’ll come across with and yet instead of backing out I decided to face it and not run away, but I almost did. Thankfully, the team has been so patient with me that they gave me the chance to weigh things and see through the illusion, the fear and the excuses. That is called strength. Over time, I’ll get used to it and it will no longer fear me nor control me.
Traumas needs to be faced. It’s like a hardship that needs to be understood. Making peace is not firing back fire when somebody triggers it, it is staying silent and it is choosing to understand each other’s culture and where they’re coming from, that includes their family background and their upbringing. It’s hard I know and I’m still struggling because I am programmed to react a certain way, to be angry at myself or of the others and the situation, self most of the time. It’s a horrible feeling, specially during monthly periods ( I guess few knew about this).
While we want everyone to act on our way, it may not be as easy for others who have gone through lots of deep rooted traumas. Like me, it takes a lot of courage to try again after failing at something. It took time for me to decide because I haven’t yet figured out which part of me needs change. It is hard to change if you can’t see your own mistakes. Everyone needs someone who are strong and honest with their feedbacks.
Anyway, you’re not alone. So just do it yourself! You won’t be scared if you’re prepared. Maybe let’s start with asking yourself, “What can go wrong if I did this and that, and how can I handle it if it happens?” If you don’t know the answer yet, then make plans a b c d. Have options so that if one fails, then proceed to the next option, then to the next. The goal is to not be stuck, keep going, keep failing until you’ll finally get what you truly want. Do not stop, keep going, keep learning, keep changing.
If you want a different result, you have to allow change in you. Embrace change and accept that there’s no other way to grow, but to change. Learn from your mistakes and use a different approach, don’t do the same thing which causes the problem, why not try the other way. Now go, explore the world. You’re an adult now, you have my approval if you still needed one.
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