See the difference between these two. I knew this because I have experienced it and I have felt it.
When you choose self pity, you’ll attract people who will pity on you like someone who doesn’t deserve anything but just pity, a little is enough. It keeps you feeling poor and not good enough.
When you choose self love, you’ll attract people who loves that way you are. Who will be there for you and accept you for who you are. They will be there to support you simply because you love yourself.
How to love yourself when people shows you pity?
Show them how you love yourself, that they’ll be ashamed to have pity on you. Show them your very best that they themselves will decide that you have more than enough. You deserve more!
How to stop that self pity?
You got that feeling from people who aren’t proud of who they are and who you are. People who only sees your worst and not your best. Pity is something a pitiful woman/man would give just to impress others who sees them helping. Building their self image by making others appear weak.
To stop it, you must acknowledge your achievements in life. Aim ego integrity. You know yourself best, forgive others and slap them with your successes. Appear weak to the fools and show strength to those whose heart is open to accept and appreciate.