We all have dreams, wants, desires and goals; if you have not achieved yours yet, these are the following reasons why you’re not taking that first step yet; one, it’s because you are letting other people (‘friends’ ‘family’ ‘acquaintances’) decide for you, by listening at their negative takes about your ideas, being so unsupportive because they can’t do what you can, they do not know what works for you, and even if they do, they still choose to discourage you instead of uplifting you, why? They have their own reasons/either it’s intentional or they’re just terrible listeners like I was (still working on it). Or maybe, they’re still slaves of fears like I was. Or, they have their own priorities like I do, which is a valid reason.
Secondly, they’re not in your shoes/lack of understanding. Thirdly, they simply want to trigger you to make them feel better. The last one is they don’t want you to succeed because if you do it will make them feel incompetent, in secured and a failure. Remember that it’s not always about you in times of guilt and feeling at fault and not good enough. Consider their fears too. Once you understand how their brain works and how it affects them emotionally, you’ll be free from their energies and you’ll have the courage to move on and do things on your own, without or with your tribes support. Just do it now! Inspire them in the end. By the way, in case you have forgotten, not everyone in your family are bad people/remember the good ones who have been with you through ups and downs/people who have been waiting for you to succeed, rooting for you, cheering up for you/not to mention your teachers who have seen your abilities and those who believed in you.
People who loves you dearly are waiting for you to return, to remember them, to thank them and to appreciate them for their emotional and moral support. For the sake of your supporters, may it be in heaven or on earth, please go on and keep achieving more. Your people will be there to celebrate with you on your return just like how a father would celebrate the return of a lost son who have spent all his wealth and ended up sleeping with pigs. Remember the good times in times of self doubt and trials. Remember the happy memories in times of pain, and remember your achievements in times of self pity, insecurities, anxieties and depression. Remember to always choose yourself if everyone else rejected/cancelled you and discouraged you/you did it alone many times and you have been successful/ you can do it alone this time/your God never change. The God that carried you here and there, will be the same God who will bring you somewhere safe and secure/Trust in the Lord your God, not of the fear of man.
Choose to rejoice in times of discouragement! Choose to love in times of death. It’s okay to mourn in silence, let love be known in public. In times of doubts, take risks, as long as it is not forced. Remember that forcing is not a good deed, let it go when it’s time to. If it’s no longer serving you and if it’s already destroying your peace, you can always say NO/and if you are being rejected and cancelled, rejoice! Choose yourself! You deserve a better experience. So always be thankful and grateful!
I may have different perspective right now but once you understand the value of PEACE, the rest are just distractions; so if you’re going to be distracted anyway, choose the best distractions. Being single since the Pandemic helped me love myself more, appreciate myself more for the little things she did for me, for facing her fears, acknowledging my emotions instead of stopping it and sitting with me in my downtime in silence. I will always choose me, so I always win everytime someone chooses someone else’s. Others think of it as self pitying, but it’s not self pitying if you’re giving yourself everything that really makes her happy that the ones who left is not able to give, right?
See you around, enlightened ones! 🩷 Remember to look within if you cannot find it without. You’re looking at the wrong direction my dear if you can’t find happiness yet 😘. Remember not to chase others to make you happy, they have their own self to love too/ your happiness is your responsibility not of anyone. Forcing people to stay when they’re no longer happy is selfishness and it’s toxic to them, to me, and to you, isn’t it? Find your happiness within you, take responsibility and take action. In that way you cannot blame yourself for others failure to pursue their dreams because you kept them stuck with you, nor will you blame them for making the wrong choice of chasing them to complete you because you did not take responsibility of your own needs.
The time spent chasing goes to waste because in the end, the only person you need to provide for you is you, and it’s always within you. It left you exhausted for nothing, so use your energy now to love yourself instead. Be still and let them come to you, stay with you, leave you/set them free/and if someone’s chasing you, then stay still and talk about self Love, hahaha! Namaste! 🌍
Climbing, Rocks! 